When the time comes, what are the 5 gifts I would want to bestow upon my children for their future?
This was a surprisingly challenging question to answer; the more I thought about it, the more answers popped up in my head. After going through a whole alphabetical list and crossing off the zebras and zoozoo dolls in the final 'Z' page, this is my choices on what I would want my kids to have.
1. Education and aptitude.
Scary as it is to admit, we live in a land where the less you study, the more you tend to earn because of unsavory means ( cough cough ministers cough cough ). But that is beyond my control. I would want my children to grow up educated and capable of innovative thinking. I would not enforce a profession upon them - their aptitudes and talents as they grow up will determine the direction of their destiny. Whether they choose to be doctors or ninjas, my role is to provide for them and make sure they have an opportunity to reach for the stars, should they choose.
I'm tired of unwanted, invisible barriers still being an issue in India after all these years. I would want my children to grow up knowing that they have every opportunity to choose for themselves as long as they do no harm to others. They can choose their hobbies, their friends, those they want to keep in their lives and those they feel safer without, their beloved. Of course, the responsibility of their choices and decisions will need to be instilled upon them as well. I think that will be the key between raising a thoughtful child or ending up with a spoiled brat.
3. A happy family life worth emulating.
Oh, and definitely a dog to complete that household!! What better way to combine the gift of selfless love and a sense of responsibility than by a pet dog who will always be there for them and probably teach them more life-lessons than I will!
4. Security
Being a middle class family, we do go from pay-cheque to pay-cheque, saving a few frugal Gandhi notes every month as we continue to dream bigger dreams. In recent years though, I've really begun to understand the value of long term investment schemes and how they can help us build our castles over time. Providing an ideal balance between security, insurance and long term benefits, they are almost a necessity now for those of us looking to stay ahead of the burgeoning inflation rates and still provide for our children's future.
As a doctor, the true curse is always the loss of quality time with my family. It's a compromise I can afford to make for now. But when the time comes, I know I would anyday take a pay cut and spend lesser hours at work rather than miss out on the love and affection that my children and I would get to have. In the end, your children need your presence beside them more than tons of money and an empty seat at the dinner table.
Superb list, Doc :) The last one is particularly thoughtful :) When you give someone your time, you are gifting a portion of your life to him, right ?
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DeleteI agree.. the gift of time is one of the best ones we can give. And sadly, that's the one thing that we can't find enough of in today's dog-eat-dog world
Very good list :) I liked the point about the difference between between raising a thoughtful child or ending up with a spoiled brat. - to instil a sense of responsibility for one's actions is definitely the way to go..
ReplyDeleteI think that's where so many parents have gone wrong. They provide enough that their children don't want for anything... but they forget to teach the child to be responsible for their actions.
DeleteLovely list of gifts for your kids Doc. ATB for the contest :D
ReplyDeleteThanks... :)
DeleteLoved the time factor....I guess the most valuable gift that one could gift to their children would be the time that they could give them letting them know that they are valued to the parents!
ReplyDeleteAll the best!
It is Dan. Something so many parents forget while providing things like money and toys.
DeleteThis must have been a hard list to come up with I'm sure but all the gifts you've mentioned ate truly treasures!
ReplyDeleteThanks Aditi. When you make a list like this, so many things pop into your head. Its choosing a worthy 5 thats tough.
DeleteWonderful list!! And these are must give gifts to every child! All the best for the contest, Roshan :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Shilpa :D
DeleteGreat list. All the best for the contest.
ReplyDeleteThanks Suzy...
DeleteGood one. Every child deserves these Five. No. 3 & 5 should have topped the list i feel. All the best for the contest, this list must win :)
ReplyDeleteHaha... I agree. Should have placed 3 and 5 at the top!
DeleteI have tied and made all efforts that my kids understand and appreciate Values of Life.
ReplyDeleteThere is no substitute for it.
amen to that sir.
DeleteWhat a beautiful list, Roshan. I second each one...and strive to provide it for my son! Thank you for sharing and all the best for the contest!
ReplyDeleteglad to hear that. thanks...
DeleteNicely written...
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thanks sir :)
DeleteLovely list there, Roshan! Good luck!
ReplyDeleteThanks Rachna.
DeleteThat's a great list, Roshan. Your kids are blessed already :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Corinne. Touchwood.
DeleteExcellent Roshan! God bless the family !
ReplyDeleteThanks :D
DeleteSuperb! A great list I must say! Very thoughtful list.
ReplyDeleteThanks.. glad you liked it Reema
DeleteAgreed a lot of times we plan on giving them the world but these five important things get neglected. A great choice I must say :)
ReplyDeleteRicha
we do aim to make sure they are not wanting anything.. yet, we forget the very basics while fulfilling their dreams
DeleteGood one..difficult but its worth it...and if we can do it then its an achievement in itself (personal goal)
ReplyDeleteIt is really difficult for us pal.. have no doubt on that.
DeleteGood one..difficult but its worth it...and if we can do it then its an achievement in itself (personal goal)
ReplyDeleteExcellent Roshan...!. Though difficult to give Last one...!!
ReplyDeleteI know sir :(
DeleteGive your child happy memories... I guess that is all I'll wish for. I know the rest is also important. But in the process of giving your child security, education, etc.. we fail to give him something to cherish. So, yes, happy memories.
ReplyDeleteTrue... a happy family life and happy memories too.
DeleteReally well said radha!particularly the last part...hav seen examples myself of spoiled brats who stay dat way cos they're jus flooded wit money n no love!!time wit our children is the best gift v can guv them....
ReplyDeleteThanks Laila. We all have seen some really horrible spoiled brats frankly. Just giving children money without any responsibility is one of the biggest crimes some parents do. Scarier still that they use it as a justification.
Deletemy time is so important and the doggy pic is so cute :)
ReplyDeletegood luck Roshan. May all ur wishes get fulfilled
Thanks Afshan... touchwood
DeleteWhat wonderful gifts you chose for the kids...cant agree more with you on the piece about freedom.. and with freedom comes responsibilities
ReplyDeleteThanks Shiva. I truly feel thats where many have gone wrong... giving freedom without teaching them the cost of their actions.
Deletejust when I thought the next point couldn't hit closer home, you defy it with the next gift. Awesome list..... saving it for repeated reference.
ReplyDeleteThanks Meena... I need to remember it too someday , I guess.
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